More than thirty years I have lived alone. My old friends meet again, the first question they ask me is: I got married yet? It seems to take my husband or not be a major concern of my friends. And do not get married is a reprehensible thing. That was a bad thing in the eyes of many people. An older woman, but who remained celibate life was tied to the bad habits in life. They said that the woman had many vices and new is not good, not married. In a society increasingly outdated notions like becomes heavy.
So according to you, for a girl to marry later or not get married there is something shameful? As for me, that's normal work. But one thing that I found myself in the late marriage is in their hearts often have a lot of injuries. That may be the vulnerability of the family. They can get hurt in love. They desire a life of freedom. They can be powerful people should not need a man to love cover back. They can also be the very poor, so no one wanted to marry them. Maybe they had no desire to get married and live with someone under one roof. They prefer the single life, fun, freedom, and comfort. Because in the countryside where I live. The habits that bind and suppress a daughter in law of the family is still a lot. For a traditional rural women almost no concept of personal happiness. Their joy should set both the success of her husband's child. They are like a shadow in the family, does not have much power. Because labor economic contribution to their families low. And in the traditional way, the girl later married, they went to live in her husband's family. Therefore, the house is not legal of them, but it was her husband or their husband's family. Although they have the very best in family power is certainly upwards quite ridiculous. Sometimes I do not understand why so? But for thousands of generations, the woman after marriage has moved to live with her husband's family. And the conflict between mother and daughter in law, sister in law and brother between her husband and traditional conflicts often deeply antagonistic. So, a woman's happiness after marriage really exist? If that woman bear a son to inherit the worship of her husband support the family, but if the woman is not born son, or daughter is born full life that woman almost fell into the unfortunate. Affectionate couple so that was broken. The husband may adultery or marrying another woman. The husband's family is very supportive of it. True marriage is not only pink as the teenage girls think. So today more and more young people choosing to marry later, or not married. They want to have an independent life, and build for themselves a strong field before entering the marriage! Things I think is very good!
Author: Pham Thi Hoi
So according to you, for a girl to marry later or not get married there is something shameful? As for me, that's normal work. But one thing that I found myself in the late marriage is in their hearts often have a lot of injuries. That may be the vulnerability of the family. They can get hurt in love. They desire a life of freedom. They can be powerful people should not need a man to love cover back. They can also be the very poor, so no one wanted to marry them. Maybe they had no desire to get married and live with someone under one roof. They prefer the single life, fun, freedom, and comfort. Because in the countryside where I live. The habits that bind and suppress a daughter in law of the family is still a lot. For a traditional rural women almost no concept of personal happiness. Their joy should set both the success of her husband's child. They are like a shadow in the family, does not have much power. Because labor economic contribution to their families low. And in the traditional way, the girl later married, they went to live in her husband's family. Therefore, the house is not legal of them, but it was her husband or their husband's family. Although they have the very best in family power is certainly upwards quite ridiculous. Sometimes I do not understand why so? But for thousands of generations, the woman after marriage has moved to live with her husband's family. And the conflict between mother and daughter in law, sister in law and brother between her husband and traditional conflicts often deeply antagonistic. So, a woman's happiness after marriage really exist? If that woman bear a son to inherit the worship of her husband support the family, but if the woman is not born son, or daughter is born full life that woman almost fell into the unfortunate. Affectionate couple so that was broken. The husband may adultery or marrying another woman. The husband's family is very supportive of it. True marriage is not only pink as the teenage girls think. So today more and more young people choosing to marry later, or not married. They want to have an independent life, and build for themselves a strong field before entering the marriage! Things I think is very good!
Author: Pham Thi Hoi
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