The difference between the culture of the family in the East and the West are very clear. In Eastern countries, children born of parents treasure, especially with boys. Because they have to rely parenting concepts thanks to them as decrepit. Therefore, they are the future in their old age. They spend all of what is best for the child. Sacrifice so much of himself to us. Cae life as baked hard just to feed them a decent education by people. And they try to leave as much property as possible for children. Announced psychological sacrifice to better life for my life very popular in Asian countries way.
And in the other Western countries. The children have to work to make money from an early age. We are independent from their parents. Parents only endless love for us. And everything is almost all conditions. Food, school fees ... the kids can take care or their parents will return to them later. So perhaps a billionaire in the West brought his entire fortune to charity, instead of dividing the children is a very ordinary job. Because here, people think: Parents rich, not necessarily wealthy children. The success of the parents belong to the parents. And you will do all of your own life. The children in the US were to decide everything concerning their lives.
Two cultural threaded relatively contradictory this may seem a bit extreme. The babble too dear, sacrificing the interests of the children themselves in the East, also create a negative thing for the kids. Great kids that still rely, dull back into their parents. The children of the rich, then dissipated, pleasure because they know would enjoy enormous a fortune from their parents. But in return, self deep inside we always feared, their parents, their grandparents. Because they have given us so many things in life. Most of the parents, grandparents and older are living descendants. They are receiving the care, respect and take care of your children. If the family does not treat their parents, their grandparents. Society would despise. They even violate the provisions of law.
And in the West, on the other. Parents, grandparents when most elderly living alone. Because descendants still busy at work to eat, tourism ... We have become accustomed to enjoying the freedom and personal happiness. The obligation to care for their parents and grandparents when the elderly are overlooked. End of an elderly person in the West mostly in the brain homes. Elderly people often die in loneliness.
Maybe when the children are young. Parents in the West a bit too bright flat with her children. They do so because their children want independence. But accidentally makes the relationship between parents and children become weak. Parents have no obligation to feed their children? Then how later in life requires children to be obliged to take care, take care of yourself?
As for the East. The so cared for the children that their independence is very weak. We always have to do this, listen to the other person. Our thoughts are not independent from their parents and grandparents. Despite many years, but in their own lives, they still can not decide on everything. In essence they are just like a big kid.
A father, mother wise to combine both cultures East and West to educate their children. They have the duty to raise their children, and teach them when I get older, they should be obliged to care for and take care of yourself. The strenuous housework, even in adult society have to work there to earn money like: Maids, horticulture, animal husbandry, farming ... go over to them to do and to pay for them. The kids will love with this part-time jobs. Since we almost an obligation but will have pocket money. Children are a miniature adult. Help your kids self-conscious, self-financing and we will soon mature.
Author: Pham Thi Hoi
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