The relationship of friends, relatives, relatives of the family ... usually respected in sentiment. But if emotions without being regulated by provisions, legislation is very birth disorders. But strict rules used to treat the disorder, it will hurt the feelings of both sides. Therefore, to build a long term relationship, enduring. We should set limits, regulations, rules right from the start to build a home. Doing so, though initially the insiders did not feel uncomfortable. But long term, people's feelings will tighten up and sticking.
This problem is thought to be small, but if you can not find the wisdom to prevent the first place. It will cause us to regret later. As in the first phase while establishing a relationship is very important, it serves to outline the orientation and behavior in that relationship throughout the period thereafter. That each person is a unique individual. Despite their love for each other very much, but the desires, thoughts, and our actions, not always the same. If every person on his way to behave. Until then hurt each new fix. How many times, after fixing your mistakes, then that relationship is destroyed? Because you have hurt him too much.
So, while building a love, or start a marriage. Certainly we need to be honest and truthful. Absolutely not deceive the enemy, if you do not want to have a love or marriage misfortune. Be frank to say what the true wishes of myself. Or exchange and build a common code of conduct with his mate, since setting up the first family. In doing so, our family as having a sustainable framework. Because feelings are the feelings fluctuate. When the emotional sublimation, but sometimes it was a large decrease. The construction of a common code of conduct in marriage is very important. It helps the feelings of the couple are moving in a fixed frame. So that all actions and behavior of both is not outrageous. They do not hurt each other's egos. Should affection between spouses thus become stronger. The family thus become sustainable.
In all relationships in society and the world. If you want to build a sustainable relationship with them. Right from the start, we should not use the emotion to deal with them. But use wisdom. Let's build the skeleton behave in such relationships. Emotional stuff just fill in skeleton there. In doing so, the new relationship is developed to a high level of sustainability and good. The first impression is very important to others. So we should not be silent, leaving the others want to think how they think. Because when they think the routine before, we very difficult readjustment thinking, cognitive and their thinking about us. Until then there is remorse and no longer keep up. Although the love between two people can flourish, given the relationship of two people on a very high level, and seems durable. But in reality, all these things are not sustainable. Because it does not have to be reinforced within the frame. Be wiser, so your emotions have a home to sustainable development. So we will not be hurt in the relationship.
Author: Pham Thi Hoi
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